Help from social agency....

We had a meeting with Mom, myself, Dad and the social agency that will assist with getting Dad into a nursing home. Here's the deal...
Dad must give his permission to go into the home even though:
- he's a potential risk to his own safety
- he can easily be coerced into making decisions
- he can't remember anything short term (give him 3 words and ask for the 3 words in 10 minutes)

At anytime in the process of getting long term care he can decide to go back home. So if Brother tells Dad that the nursing home is bad for Dad and he needs to be at home, Dad can tell the agency he wants to go home and they must allow him to return.

There is some government assistance, but not much and only for the basic rates. Dad signed all the required paperwork although I know he had no idea of what he was signing.

I found out the agency also gave Mom and additional 3 hours of in home care for Dad. They offered this last month, but Mom said not to bother. I was furious that she refused the help since I'm the one she calls when she's having a nervous breakdown and expects me to do something about it. Take the damn help.

She also has the option of putting Dad into a nursing home for short term stay, up to 90 days per calendar year. It costs $30/day, but for a weekend it's $60 bucks. I'll gladly pay for that if it will give Mom some needed rest. She told the social worker that she's fine and doesn't need the break. Fuck you. Take the fucking break. Don't call me when you can't take it anymore. If you refuse the help, then that is a choice you are making. I won't feel obligated to drop everything because you're not able to deal with it anymore. There is help available, but you won't take it for whatever reason.