Will caring people change?

What I observe is how people react to illness and their need to help and to contribute in some way to the recouperation of the loved one. My family is no different. My family being my Dad's immediate family (Mom, brother, myself), his siblings and my mothers family. Each comes with a different perspective on how to help and how to cope.

My two aunts, my Dad's sisters, are desperate for progress. There was a confrontation between them and my Mom Tuesday morning. In the conversation, they wanted to know from her what she is doing for Dad. What she is doing for physiotherapy, what she is doing for rehabilitation. The social worker had to come in and interveen for Mom. The doctor had to come in to interveen. Not a pretty site. Thankfully for my Mom her brother and sister were present to protect her. Mom isn't thinking in those terms just yet. She is caring for his day to day needs. The hospital is not in a position to give day much therapy as he is not conscious enough, he is not capable to following instruction. We've gotten him to the point that he is sitting in a wheelchair and wearing regular clothes. This is wonderful to see. My aunts called me asking to meet me the evening of the blow up with me Mom. I met them after viewing a Long Term Care Facility. I meet them at 3:30pm. For the most part it was a pleasant meeting. I got very angry at them for treating my Mother with disrespect and anger. I got angry at them for letting my brother speak to Mom in his rude and disrespectful way. I know what they want. For them to get accupuncture they need Mom's permission. They need Mom. They need me to speak with Mom. Here's what I want in return: respect for Mom. Respect from brother to Mom. Very simple.

They were informed of what brother has done. How he hasn't called her. How he hasn't brought the kids to see her. How he hasn't cared for her. He's lied. He's bent the truth. All the information they have received has been through him. Through the eyes of someone who is angry at the world. Angry at my Mom. There's too much anger. Whatever his issues are he needs to address them and anot direct it toward Mom.

When they met Mom the next morning the to sisters were very civil and pleasant to Mom from what I was told. I have hope that we can work together. I'm even getting email from brother. I keep trying. I'm exhausted.